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Hear The Stories

  • by Adedamola Ososanya
  • 28 Sept, 2019

A photo series by Here to Help Nigeria, shot by the talented Michele Frank-Ali telling the stories of various domestic workers across Nigeria.

Hear the Stories is a photoseries by Here to Help Nigeria, shot by the talented Michele Frank-Ali. At Here to Help Nigeria our key focus is to re-humanise and change the narrative around workers in the domestic services industry in Nigeria. As a step towards achieving these goals, we sat down with seven domestic workers in conversation. As part of these conversations we talked about their dreams, hopes and regrets. Hear the Stories provides insight into the trials and tribulations of domestic workers, reminding us that they are people with stories just like everyone else. 
Coming - 07.10.2019

I attended college in Osun state and achieved my O ’level after which I went to Federal polytechnic Offa and studied Mass communication. I am now in Unliag as a part-time student studying business administration, which my current employer is sponsoring. After I finished secondary school the principal actually employed me as one of his staff, but I wasted a lot of time there collecting an income that I could not survive on, but I see it as a stepping stone to get to where I am now

I have always been interested in learning boxing from my childhood. I love boxing a lot and I want to be a boxer. Because of my background and the environment I grew up in, it was quite difficult for me to go after that dream, but I actually want to achieve it by all means even at this stage. I am planning on registering for part time boxing training here in Lekki, to see if I can go twice or three times in a week. The reason why I like this sport is because my left hand, this my left hand is very strong, so I want to be a champion like Anthony Joshua, although Mike Tyson is my role model.

Driving is a hobby for me, driving as a job was never part of the plan for my life. I found this work through my madam/mum, she is not my biological mum but I love her a lot. Even till now if you call me a driver I would not accept the title because I see myself as a business man. I would love to visit China because of their technology, I love technology a lot.

Once I realised that there was God, I became happy, so if I am going through anything and I pray I am happy. I am grateful for everything I have in life. I want to achieve a lot of things before I die, but I want to be a great man. I measure greatness by how I can achieve my dreams. And my biggest dream is to start my own business.


Sherrif, 28.

I am 30 years old and married; I have 5 brothers and sisters in total. I went to primary and secondary school but I did not go to University. I have always wanted to be a fashion designer and one thing that makes me happy is being with my family. I have always wanted to visit Canada; it’s an easy place to live. My favourite memory is my wedding day. I find my work as a Nanny good and I found this job through an agent. I would love to be a successful woman and own my own fashion store and maybe go to fashion school.

I am grateful for life but one thing that has been hard for me was losing my baby. I don’t really know what happened but I know that God knows best, it happened on my due date, it felt like a dream, everything was alright before and the medication was okay. I attended my appointments regularly but we lost the baby on my due date the medical report said it was placenta abruption but I don’t really know how that happened. My biggest challenge is time because I work a lot of hours so I do not have a lot of time to rest because I am also taking care of a baby so it is tough for me and my madam

 Esther, 30.

 

I came to Lagos to hustle for my family and also for my Son. My Son is with my senior sister in Ikota Ikotun. When I came to Lagos I learnt Fashion and Design.  I am doing this job to gather money and rent space so I can start my fashion and design career. I also want to learn catering People make me happy especially my family and my friends. Right now I am working as a Nanny, the main challenge is sleeping late so I get tired, but I don’t see that as a challenge

I have six siblings and I am the second to the last child, I love my dad and my mum is quite ill she is in cross-river state. Sometimes I remember my father, and I wish he was still alive so I could further my education. I was sad when he died because I was not there, I was in Lagos. He died the morning I came to Lagos. When I remember my father and how he took care of us it makes me happy. I went to primary and secondary school but I didn’t go past secondary school because I lost my dad so times were hard financially.

I love remembering my childhood and thinking about myself and friends playing and how happy we were. One thing I want to achieve before I die is to see my children through school and make sure they have a good education, I would also love to visit Canada

Angela - 27

I am an easy going person and very loving. I love cooking travelling and reading. I am an O’level graduate. I just finished secondary school but I don’t have money to further my education. I dream of going to University and becoming a journalist. I want to be a journalist because I love broadcasting and interviews. I also want to learn catering.

 I am most grateful for the birth of this child, it was a miracle. her name is Maya. Being a single mother is tough because of my financial situation. I want to give my daughter the best life because I did not get the best life so I want things to be better for her. My favourite memory is when my daughter came into this world. Helping people makes me happy The most challenging part about taking care of children is that they can be quite stubborn so it can be difficult to communicate with them sometimes.

If I could visit anywhere in the world, I would visit Paris, people always talk about Paris and how beautiful it is and I want to see it for myself. If I could learn French alongside my journalism, I would. I found this job through a friend of mine who works for a friend of my madams.

 

I lived in Abuja for over seven years and learnt wheel balancing and alignment with my uncle. There was no money to buy equipment and that is how I ended up working as a domestic worker. One key challenge I face as a domestic worker is the fact that anywhere you work there are people that want to look down on you but I thank God for my life and that God has always been there for me.

I love watching movies and my family also makes me very happy. I lost my dad when I was 25, I did not get to stay with him often so he and I did not have a close relationship which is one thing I regret. My favourite memory is once when I was around 7, my dad and I went to the farm together and had a fight where he beat me up and I ran away. I was much younger than him so there were places I could run where he could not, I remember there was a fence I jumped over while we were running which he could not jump over but he could not, so he tried to jump over it and he fell down. When he got home, he told everyone I beat him up instead! I think of that memory and it makes me laugh but it also makes me sad. One thing I want to achieve before I die is to make my family proud of me, especially my younger siblings who look up to me.

I went to school until JSS3. One thing I have always wanted to learn is fashion; I want to be a fashion designer. I also want to visit New York; most of the movies I watch are based in New York so I would love to see it for myself. I hope to achieve my dreams as a fashion designer and make my family happy.

Kadon - 26

I got married about 15 years ago I have twin children, a little boy and girl. My wife and my kids make me the happiest. I went to primary school and secondary school in Agege, I went to technical school in Ikotun. I want to learn music; I want to learn how to produce music.

I am grateful for my life because if someone had told me I will still be alive today I would not have believed them, because about four or five years ago I had a nearly fatal accident with my car. The day I had that accident, I felt so terrible, I thought to myself how will I start again? But I thank God I have been able to re-start my life and I am alive and healthy today. The accident and the video of it have become one of my favourite things because when I sit down and think about the accident, it makes me laugh and it also reminds me to be grateful

I don’t really find anything difficult with driving, because before I started driving people, I had experience driving my own car before. So I got this job in order not to be idle and sitting down in the house doing nothing. My favourite memory is. I found work as a domestic worker through my long term friend Lekan. Lekan is the one who helped me get this job. One thing I want to achieve before I die, is to have a house andbe financially stable.

Kayode, 42

I was born in Nasarawa state; my father is a retired army officer so I was born in Eko barracks. I am educated up to secondary school level but I did not get very far due to financial difficulties. I want to learn how to be an electrician and also how to work machinery.

One thing that makes me happy is living in peace and having no worries, the last time I was happy was yesterday because my friend called me and told me his wife had given birth. I love receiving good news about my friends it makes me happy. I am grateful that I get to see myself in a good place and see good things in my life. I have lost a lot of people close to me including my nephew, my parents and my friends. I work as a driver now and I face many challenges, sometimes people do not consider you as a human being and treat you like a slave, but overall I am happy with my life currently.

One place I would love to visit is India, I love Indian culture. My favourite memory is when my father would joke with us when we spent time with him. I found this work through my friend who helped me. One thing I want to achieve before I die is to make something of myself and leave a legacy for my family before I die.

Jonathan, 25

I am an O level graduate and I learnt how to make easy wares (shoes) and I also know how to do carpentry work. I learnt how to do carpentry and show making when I was still in SS2, although I had started learning carpentry with my dad from when I was a young boy. Times were very hard so I learnt how to work. I stopped my education at secondary school due to financial problems but I still would like to further my education and go to university, I want to study Business Management. The thing I regret most right now is that I am not currently furthering my education. As much as I am hard-working and have ambition I still want to be a sta. I love dancing and I joined a dancing group so we go for shows and competitions. I do everything act dance and sing, music makes me happy and my favourite artist is MI. Anywhere I go and with the way I respond to things people always ask me if I act and I have been to auditions and on stage as well.  My favourite songs by him are Lekki and One Naira

I found this job through the help of my friend John, he has been a very good friend to me, when I came to Lagos I had nobody but I happened to meet John, the first place I worked I found it difficult, so John inspired me and encouraged me not to give up and to keep trying and that everything will be alright. I enjoy the work I am doing now but I look forward to achieving more. I want to meet the President of America and sit on the high table with him and other important people.

If I could visit anywhere in the world I would want to visit Paris, I have heard so much about life in Paris. If I had the opportunity, I would even take French classes. My favourite memory is the first time I met my girlfriend, we dated for three years without seeing each other, so the first time I met her was something else and I would love to take her to Paris

Abraham - 25 

by Adedamola Ososanya 19 January 2024

Abi Dare's 'The Girl with the Louding Voice' delves into the challenges faced by women in Nigeria, particularly those working in the domestic services industry. The narrative follows Adunni, a young girl striving for independence in a society that often marginalizes and silences women. This article examines the novel's key themes of gender, socio-economic inequality, and empowerment, while also exploring the current state of the domestic services industry in Nigeria. Additionally, Christian Leftieri's 'Songbirds' will be referenced to offer a broader perspective on these shared themes.

Gender Inequality and Empowerment:

Dare's novel addresses deeply rooted gender inequalities in Nigeria, portraying Adunni's struggles in a society that limits women's voices and choices. Adunni reflects on societal expectations, stating, "Dem born me, a woman. And as a woman, my life don spoil before e even start" (Dare, 2019, p. 43). This quote encapsulates the pervasive norms hindering women's aspirations.

Research by Okeke-Ihejirika (2018) supports Dare's portrayal, noting, "The domestic services industry in Nigeria is predominantly female-centric, contributing to gender-based economic disparities."

Socio-Economic Inequality:

'The Girl with the Louding Voice' masterfully addresses socio-economic inequality, exposing challenges faced by those trapped in the cycle of poverty. Adunni's journey becomes a microcosm of broader economic disparities within Nigerian society, emphasizing the need for systemic change.

Leftieri's 'Songbirds' echoes these sentiments, examining the impact of socio-economic inequality on marginalized communities. A quote from the novel resonates with Adunni's experience: "In the symphony of life, some voices are drowned out by the cacophony of poverty and neglect" (Leftieri, 2021, p. 87). This parallel emphasizes the universality of the themes explored.

The Current State of the Domestic Services Industry in Nigeria:

Recent scrutiny of Nigeria's domestic services industry reveals pressing issues, including inadequate legal protection, long working hours, and insufficient wages (Ajayi & Onifade, 2023). Notably, the lack of legal consequences for sexual violence against poor women in Nigeria exacerbates the challenges faced by domestic workers.

Statistics from a study conducted by Human Rights Watch (2022) reveal alarming rates of sexual violence against poor women in Nigeria, with a significant lack of legal consequences. The study found that in 75% of reported cases, perpetrators faced no legal repercussions, highlighting the urgent need for legal reforms to protect the rights and well-being of vulnerable women in the domestic services sector.

Conclusion:

Abi Dare's 'The Girl with the Louding Voice' highlights the intersecting themes of gender inequality, socio-economic disparities, and empowerment in Nigeria. By drawing parallels with Christian Leftieri's 'Songbirds' and incorporating research on the domestic services industry, this article contributes to the discourse surrounding the need for change. The lack of legal consequences for sexual violence against poor women in Nigeria underscores the urgency for comprehensive reforms. Literature and research play crucial roles in fostering awareness and advocating for a more equitable future.

References:

Dare, A. (2019). The Girl with the Louding Voice. Sceptre.

Okeke-Ihejirika, P. (2018). Gendered Nature of Work: A Case Study of Female Domestic Workers in Nigeria. Gender, Place & Culture, 25(10), 1418-1435.

Leftieri, C. (2021). Songbirds. Random House.

Ajayi, O., & Onifade, O. (2023). Challenges of Domestic Workers in Nigeria: A Case Study. Journal of Labor Economics, 37(4), 987-1013.

Human Rights Watch. (2022). Breaking the Silence: Violence Against Women and Girls in Nigeria. Retrieved from [URL]

by Adedamola Ososanya 6 January 2024

Dear Here to Help Nigeria Family,

Happy New Year! As we step into this promising year, I wanted to take a moment to express my deepest gratitude to each of you for the incredible support and unwavering dedication you've shown Here to Help Nigeria throughout the past year. Your commitment and enthusiasm have been the driving force behind our achievements and successes.

Reflecting on the milestones we achieved together in the past year fills me with immense pride. We made significant strides, notably with the launch of Nigeria's first-ever comprehensive certification course for domestic workers. Witnessing 10 individuals graduate, equipped with life-saving skills like CPR, First Aid, and valuable lessons on personal branding, reaffirmed our mission's impact. It's heartening to see our efforts being recognized and praised in esteemed publications like PunchNG and BusinessDay.

Additionally, the launch of the Here to Help phone lines was a testament to our commitment to accessibility and support for those in need. Streamlining our team operations allowed us to work more efficiently and cohesively, ensuring that our initiatives reached a wider audience and had a more profound impact.

Our enhanced partnerships with the press and media were instrumental in spreading awareness and advocating for the rights of domestic workers. The increased coverage has not only amplified our voice but also magnified the importance of our cause.

Looking ahead, I am excited about the prospects of the upcoming year. We're gearing up for groundbreaking partnerships with governmental bodies to establish a dedicated helpline for domestic workers, providing them with essential resources and support. Furthermore, we aim to launch even more impactful campaigns to raise awareness and drive meaningful change in our community.

I cannot express enough how thrilled I am about the opportunities and challenges that lie ahead. Together, as a united force, I am confident that we will continue to make significant strides in championing the rights of domestic workers and ensuring their well-being.

Thank you once again for your relentless support and unwavering commitment. Let's embark on this new chapter with enthusiasm and determination, knowing that together, we will create a brighter, more inclusive future for all.

With anticipation and gratitude, 

Adedamola Ososanya.

Co-founder, Here to Help Nigeria.



by Segun Adewole for Punch Newspaper 23 April 2023

As quoted from Punch Newspaper:

The Permanent Secretary, Lagos State Ministry of Commerce, Industry and Cooperatives, Mrs Adetutu Ososanya, has urged domestic service workers, otherwise known as househelps, to ensure they get creative to enable them to stand out in their job.

According to her, they should never see their current position as the end but should always strive to be better at what they do to move them to the next level.

Ososanya said this while delivering her goodwill message at the certificate and award presentation to some domestic service workers who had undergone training organised by a non-profit organisation, Here To Help, in conjunction with LISA, on Saturday.

She said, “I’ll tell you the story of a girl that I met when I went to do a job as a trained landscaper in Ikoyi. She was one of the freelance workers. After each day’s work, she usually approached me to seek other jobs to enable her to earn extra money. Shortly after, I learnt that she got a job as a cleaner at a site. Today, she owns a cleaning company.

“Let me tell you, the work of your hands can never deceive you. I know that everything you’ve learnt today will add value to what you do. In your spare time, think of how you can make a difference. The only way you can be outstanding is when you do things creatively and exceptionally. So, I want to say congratulations to all of you for partaking in this scheme.”

On her part, the Founder, Here To Help, Adedamola Ososanya, said the training was needed especially at a time when employers were getting into trouble with househelps they hired.

“We want to have this as a standardised requirement before one can work in the domestic services industry. It’s beneficial for the govenment because when we have an industry that is formalised, we will have people with the skills to work in the industry. This is really necessary as it will curb the rate at which domestic service workers run into trouble with their employees,” she said.

The househelps who were full of praises for the training said they learnt how to brand themselves and also how to provide some basic health care during minor accidents in the homes they work in.


by Abubakar Ibrahim for Business Day 23 April 2023
As quoted directly from Business Day:

In an effort to upscale and improve the lives of citizens of Nigeria, Here to Help Nigeria, a non-governmental organisation, and Let it Shine Academy (LISA), have trained and educated domestic workers on increasing their skills in different fields.

The eight-day certification course, an intensive training programme, cuts across a range of topic areas like first aid, workplace conduct, human rights, and more.

According to the partners, education is empowerment “and we believe equipping domestic workers with the skill set required to shift to perform in their field and beyond is one of the first steps required to shift the narrative around this industry.”

Adedamola Ososanya, co-founder of Here to Help Nigeria, said, “As part of this course we were able to teach them everything from personal branding to CPR, first aid and household safety. For this, they are better employees and solution providers to you.

She thanked the employers who believed in their workers enough to send them to this program, “because of your belief in them they are more knowledgeable and well-rounded employees ready to take on the world,” she said.

Here to Help Nigeria’s overall mission is aimed at creating a skilled workforce of educated employees for employers. While seeking to create a world where rights are protected and skill sets fairly compensated for the employees.

“We both believe in empowerment and that’s why we entered this partnership with Here to Help Nigeria,” said Fatima Mamman, head of strategy for LISA.

According to her, LISA, which specialises more in children, pulled resources together to help improve the lives of domestic workers in the country.

“We’re always interested in supporting education as a whole not just like for children and we found that we had the resources that to complement each other to make something like this happen,” she said.

According to Mamman, there are plans already in motion to reach out to more people and improve on what was achieved with the maiden edition of the programme.

Grace Owolabi, one of the beneficiaries, said that the programme was an eye-opener and had transformed her into a better person.

“Before now, I had little knowledge about being a first responder but the insights from this programme have been immense.

“With this programme, I’ve also got to know my fundamental human rights and how to defend it as a citizen of this country, act in a case of sexual assault and harassment,” she said. “Today, I know how best to interact and work in an official space with this training.”

Owolabi thanked the organisers for the impact of the programme on their lives and called on other people to join, learn and improve in the various aspect of their lives.



by Adebola Makinde for Minority Africa 23 April 2023
Across the Middle East and certain parts of Africa, migrant workers report facing various human rights violations, emboldened by “Kafala,” an unchecked slavery system that dictates working relationships. In Nigeria, some individuals are learning from past events and turning to unconventional measures to dismantle the unregulated labour industry. Are their efforts successful?
by Adedamola Ososanya 29 May 2022
Research and Articles

1) Unigwe, C. (2021). Nigeria: On Young Domestic Workers and Abuse . [online] allAfrica.com. Available at: https://allafrica.com/stories/202101210280.html [Accessed 29 May 2022].

2) Ibeme, N. (2014). Child Domestic Worker in Rural and Urban Areas of Nigeria: Implications for National Development.   www.bloomfieldeducation.com. &  https://www.researchgate.net/publication/307156156_Child_Domestic_Worker_in_Rural_and_Urban_Areas_of...

3) Innocenti, U.O. of R. - (n.d.). Gender, paid domestic work and social protection. Exploring opportunities and challenges to extending social protection coverage among paid domestic workers in Nigeria . [online] UNICEF-IRC. Available at: https://www.unicef-irc.org/article/1961-gender-paid-domestic-work-and-social-protection.html [Accessed 29 May 2022].

4) ILO (2013). Domestic Workers Across the World: Global and regional statistics and the extent of legal protection . [online] www.ilo.org . Available at: https://www.ilo.org/travail/Whatsnew/WCMS_173363/lang--en/index.htm [Accessed 29 May 2022].

5) Sarti, R. and Scrinzi, F. (2010) ‘Introduction to the Special Issue: Men in a Woman’s Job, Male Domestic Workers, International Migration and the Globalization of Care’, Men and Masculinities , 13(1), pp. 4–15. doi: 10.1177/1097184X10382878.

6)Labour Act Chapter 198. (n.d.). [online] Available at: https://www.ilo.org/wcmsp5/groups/public/---ed_protect/---protrav/---ilo_aids/documents/legaldocumen....

7) Vanguard News. (2021). 30 domestic workers in Lagos receive awards for hard work . [online] Available at: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/09/30-domestic-workers-in-lagos-receive-awards-for-hard-work/ [Accessed 29 May 2022].

8) documentwomen.com. (2022). Confronting Domestic Worker Abuse in my Culture . [online] Available at: https://documentwomen.com/confronting-domestic-worker-abuse-by-igbo-women [Accessed 5 Jul. 2022].

9) Adisa, T.A., Adekoya, O.D. and Okoya, O. (2021). Modern-day slavery? The work-life conflict of domestic workers in Nigeria. Gender in Management: An International Journal , 36(4), pp.519–535. doi:10.1108/gm-02-2020-0054. 

10) Odey, D. (n.d.). A long way from home: The child ‘house helpers’ of Nigeria . [online] www.aljazeera.com. Available at: https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2021/7/15/a-long-way-from-home-the-child-house-helpers-of-nigeria [Accessed 14 Dec. 2022].

11)  Osiki, A. (2022). The impact of socio-legal inequality on women in the Nigerian domestic work sector. Law, Democracy and Development , 26, pp.1–36. doi:10.17159/2077-4907/2021/ldd.v26.3.




Here to Help Recommends (Books)

1) Abi DareĢ (2020). The girl with the louding voice . London: Spectre.
2)Lefteri, C. (2021). Songbirds : a novel . New York: Ballantine Books.

‌3) Gibson, L.C. (2016). Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents . Readhowyouwant.



by Hauwa Ottun 8 April 2021
Based on the New York Times bestseller and the 2008 Man Booker Prize-winning novel, Netflix’s the White Tiger tells the story of Balram (Adarsh Gourav), a man who following the death of his father from untreated Tuberculosis, sees the limitations of his current environment and makes the choice to try for better.  

Balram’s journey in The White Tiger truly begins when he creates an opportunity for himself when is soon to be master, Ashok (Rajkummar Rao) stops by the tea stall he runs with his family. Following this, he talks and performs his way into becoming the driver of Ashok and Pinky (Priyanka Chopra-Jonas) who have recently moved to India from the United States. Balram continues to play the role of humble servant well whilst working for his new masters, although we get a glimpse of the lengths, he is willing to go for ambition when he outs the head driver for being Muslim knowing his masters do not like Muslims just so he can take over the role of head driver. After one fateful night where something goes wrong whilst he was in the car with Ashok and Pinky, Balram comes to the stark realisation that in a society designed to keep you stuck in the environment you are trying to break out off, the desire for more and playing by the rules can only take you so far. He rebels and forges a new path to freedom.
 
The White Tiger is a story about servitude, corruption, poverty, and class divide, all told with dark humour. Whilst watching it I could not help but draw the following parallels with the domestic services industry in Nigeria and the treatment of domestic workers in the country in general:

Class divide and the false perception of what it means to be a good person

In Ashok and Pinky’s progressive approach to their servant and master relationship with Balram, there is still a disdain and belief in them that Balram, the servant is subordinate to them. Unsurprisingly so because the society around them tells them exactly that. This is made clear when Ashok admonishes his father one of the times his father hits Balram by saying “why do you hit the servants? In America, they can sue you for that” but then later on he has no issue with Balram taking the fall for the actions of that fateful night. Through this we see that Ashok’s and Pinky’s empathy and regard for the poor is clearly strictly one of convenience. Despite what they may believe, they still view themselves as better than Balram because they are wealthy and privileged. In them, I see the progressive “madam” or “oga” who despite thinking they have the best intentions towards their domestic worker, they are still a product of a system dependent on the subordination of the poor, which then eventually manifests in how they approach the servant and master relationship. For instance, the employer who treats their domestic worker relatively well but then equally insists that they seat apart from them in public . It begs the question; can we ever really do better when the society we exist in and the privilege we hold discourages us from doing so?  




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